kluczyczka (she/her)

get a list of the effects of T. ask yourself: " do i want those effects?" you already expirience them, i guess. but do you like what it does to you in the grand view? i struggeled bc breasts weren’t on my wishlist but a certain strength was … it is abt the majority here. by now, breasts are very much on my wishlist; denial yk …

i had a rather bad relationship with my parents. not catastrophic, but not good for sure. being trans only showed me this bigger problem once again. i do not talk to the father atm and avoid the mother.

what i still do is sending them pictures of me via group chat when i feel great. i want them to see their daughter. they either do not react to it at all, or very distanced (like “that looks different.”). besides that i do not share anything. they would only turn anything agsinst me.

so. i do not deal with that situation in a very grown up way. or maybe i am just done? i learned years ago, that i shouldn’t expect anything from them. your case seems different in that they were caring an suddenly stopped? it must be a schock to suddenly watch your parents shift and let you down. even if you somewhat expected this, seeing it play out in front of you is a very sad moment. please keep walking. your little family sounds awesome! :)

you have done great! i am a little emotional right now and try not to cry on the train. i’m glad you got this so fast.:)))

lot has been said. deutsche christen werent catholics. but they sound familiar, these days.

that unapologetic use of color, i think. pink doorframes? i could have those too.

omg! i honestly liked something here.

Shopping can be EXHAUSTING if you’re out of your element and sometimes stores will have zero options. Keep this in mind and try either another store or another day.

plus: get a good idea of what size you need. maybe ask a person in the shop. esp. when thrifting, there is often just one size and naturally you try it anyqay. trying on too small sizes is the biggest source of dysphoria for me while shopping. i’m glad i somewhat know what my size is now.

do. not. wear. too. small. sizes.

it will make you uncomfortable in one way or the other.

i assume you’d like to have a ‘toned down’ start? you are nervous about skirts, because thats to explicitly femme? i at least felt that way for years.

in that case i’d suggest you find yourself a cute cardigan, you can wear ir over your regular clothes and it’s not to much of a ‘committement’. at worst it will be seen as playfull or rather just someone wanting to be comfy.

you could then go buy a womens shirt and some pants you like. wirh these items it is the details (cut, fabric etc.) that differentiate tgem from the mens section. so that’s still not too big of a step, but i think you’ll see qnd feel it. :)

as a non-native i use tho to rebel against english orthography a bit, and because its faster – just like i side with the belgians and say septant instead of soixante-dix; or as i side with the saxons finding drei-viertel-zehn more convincing.

non standard lingo ftw! :)

people do seem to take this road.

it. is. not. about. the. cops.

i feel like i clarified that enough for someone who never said something remotely in defense of ice.

antifascism that does not care about people they claim to protect (those with bodies that are deemed sub optimal, the “degenerates”, the “perverts”, the racialized …) is pointless at best.

there are more insults, not only those that shit on whole groups of people.

well, and you don’t like overweight people in general?

by all means, hate ice fucks, but if you’d call them fags for whatever reason, i’d throw stuff at you. because using fag as an insult is an attack on me. that is the structure i was talking about. insults that are based on groups are shit if you “don’t really” mean to shit on the whole group.

choose your insults wisely. :*

idc :)

hate ice fore being ice. that’s the only lifestyle choice we need to criticise. (i’ll leave this discussion here.)

that’s not what i was talking about.

then blame cops for being cops.

i never affirmed anything nor was i talking body positivity. this is just about calling people out for their body. that is shitty behaviour for sure. none of us knows the life of other people, nor do we know their medical conditions and socio-economic situations. stop blaming them for stuff you don’t know about. even if you were right about all of that for any given case and wished for them to be healthier: blame does not motivate people.

calling names isn’t a way to motivate someone to live a healthier live. plus, is it really our responsibility?

body shaming those you dislike still hits those you like.

i’ve seen it shortly after it was uploaded by sheer luck. i was nauseous, sad and … idk after i’d seen it. i rewatched it three maybe four times in the following months. it wasn’t what pushed me over the edge in the end, but i learned so much about myself there. i felt something about my self. this video is an important piece of art.

i wish you a great journey, where ever it leads you. it is worth tqking ocer your life. :)