I worked with a guy who had an arranged marriage. His parents decided it was time for him to get married. He lived in the Philippines near his parents. They had a friend who had an eligible and similarly positioned daughter living in the US. They got married and he moved to the US. 20 years later, they have 2 kids and seem happy.
I eat vegan now (at least at home) and low fat. It made my cholesterol go from borderline hypertension to 100% optimal/healthy.
I run a couple times per week. 5K in <30min in a city. Not record breaking, but pretty okay for a non-athlete approaching 40. I also cycle everywhere, walk everywhere, no car, so carry my groceries home.
Sleep is hit and miss, most nights 8 hours, weekends up to 10 hours.
The biggest harm society does is trying to categorize people’s sexuality in firm boundaries. Sexuality is more complex than the boxes we want to draw.
Your husband is a person you have a meaningful human relationship with. It’s not sensual, probably not romantic. He’s probably akin to your best friend. He also provides mechanical actions for you with his biological dildo, which hits the right spot. But it’s not a real, sensual, rich sexual experience, it’s mechanical. He’s being a supportive life partner, but not a lover.
Your identity as a lesbian is valid. Some nit-picker might say you’re a fem-leaning bisexual, but that ignores the social context. It sounds like an arranged marriage in a culture where lesbians are not welcome or accepted, where you weren’t ever exposed to that possibility. You’ve made the best option for yourself that keeps your life socially acceptable, safe, and comfortable, and you’re really lucky to have someone supportive of who you are.
I call all of it Brainrot
The Netherlands is more water stressed than…anywhere?! Freshwater management is insane here because we have so much of it.
Here in the Netherlands, the banks are all switching to Visa from Maestro.
Coincidentally, they’re encouraging people to take on more personal debt. I see the European economy Americanizing rapidly.