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Cake day: June 5th, 2023

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  • Context is everything. The expectations should depend on the person’s potential and the goal.

    Having an absolutist binary mindset is not going to serve you or your kids well. Pushing your kids towards excellence and not coddling them with participation trophies is entirely valid. But, acting coldly disappointed and treating them like failures for not being perfect means you will probably never see them in your old age.

    Just do the math. If a very small percentage of people achieve the goal you have in mind: assuming your kid “should” achieve that is possibly just your own narcissism bleeding out on them. Not everyone is going to play pro sports or be valedictorian. Thinking otherwise is pure delusional arrogance.



  • In the US: a big gotcha is medical debt.

    Surviving spouses are often stuck with the debt after the patient dies.

    It’s one of the many reasons that when you check into a hospital they make you and your spouse sign all kinds of paperwork.

    It’s usually the first thing they make you do, and why they roll out that stupid computer cart. Making sure you can and will pay (even after death) is all they really care about. Doing it right when you come in (scared and seeking help) is when they love to pounce.

    Providing actual healthcare is way down the list of priorities. I’m talking about owners and admins, not providers.

    Yes, it’s very predatory. Murica.